帮助人不求回报的经典英语句子

Most people with flattering personality have a cognitive misunderstanding:

As long as you are a good person, you can gain the acceptance and love of others.

So they always learn not to refuse.

Xiao Mo in the TV series “female psychologist” is such a “good man in the workplace”.

Colleagues sang in KTV and called him to ask if they could help make a PPT. Although Xiao Mo was already on his way to work, he still promised;

讨好型人格的人，大多存在一个认知误区：

只要自己做个好人，就能换来别人的接纳与喜爱。

所以他们总是学不会拒绝。

电视剧《女心理师》中的小莫，就是这样一位“职场老好人”。

同事们在KTV唱歌，给他打电话问能不能帮忙做个PPT，小莫虽然已经在下班的路上，却还是满口答应；

Bring free breakfast to colleagues every day, but everyone is unwilling to take him to the party. Even if there is a party that he has to attend, it is to keep him from drinking and paying the bill;

My colleague secretly changed the dinner place. Xiao Mo threw himself into the air, but the next day he took the initiative to buy milk tea for everyone and apologized, saying he forgot to attend the dinner;

Even if I just went for a haircut, I had planned a budget of 50 yuan, but I was fooled into handling a 5000 membership card because I didn’t know how to refuse.

每天都给同事带免费早餐，但大家聚会都不愿意带他，即使有不得已让他参加的聚会，也都是为了让他挡酒、买单；

同事偷偷修改聚餐地点，小莫扑了个空，但第二天他却主动给大家买奶茶道歉，说自己忘了参加聚餐；

就算只是去剪个头发，明明已经计划好50元的预算，却因不懂拒绝被忽悠着办了5000的会员卡……

Because he was afraid of being isolated, he became a tool man. He never knew rejection and never felt tired. But no one knows that he is already full of holes in his heart. In the book “Mr. toad goes to see a psychologist”, Mr. toad also does not understand the flattering personality of rejection. He plays the role of pistachio among his friends and silently practices his skills, because he hopes to hear from others: “look at the toad, how great!”

因为害怕被孤立，他变成了工具人，从来不懂拒绝，永远不知疲惫。但没有人知道，表面嘻嘻哈哈的他，内心早已千疮百孔。在《蛤蟆先生去看心理医生》一书中，蛤蟆先生也是这样不懂拒绝的讨好型人格。他在朋友之间扮演着开心果的角色，默默苦练自己擅长的技能，因为他希望从别人口中听到：“看看蛤蟆，多棒啊！”

When a friend is angry, he will humbly beg for forgiveness in order to quickly pass the contradiction, even if it is not his fault; He racked his brains to manage the toad manor left by his father. His friends always talked about the glory of his father’s generation, and he dared not refute it at all; When he was deprived of his beloved position as a school manager, he could not say a word of opposition even if he was confused and angry.

在朋友生气时，为了矛盾快点过去，他会低声下气地苦苦哀求原谅，即使错并不在他；他绞尽脑汁地经营父亲留下来的蛤蟆庄园，朋友总拿父辈的辉煌说事，他也丝毫不敢反驳；在被夺去热爱的校董职位时，即使心乱如麻，快气炸了，也说不出一句反对的话。

He told the psychologist:

“When people are angry with me, I will be uncomfortable, as long as I can make them like me again.”

Please personality sincerely hopes that everyone around us can be happy, do things without return, put the needs of others first, but always ignore their own feelings.

In order to please others, he makes a lot of efforts, but makes himself more and more tired.

他告诉心理医生：

“大家对我生气时，我就会不自在，只要能让他们重新喜欢上我就行。”

讨好型人格真心希望身边每一个人都能开心，做事不求回报，把别人的需求放在第一位，却总是忽略自己的感受。

为了取悦别人付出大量努力，却让自己变得越来越累。

Tell yourself: if you make yourself difficult in the future, you will refuse to do it. There are thousands of roads in the world. This road is blocked. Go another way and grievance yourself. You are extremely tired!

告诉自己:以后让自己为难的事，就拒绝，世界的路千万条，此路不通，换条路走，委屈自己，心累至极！